Drinking yourself to death = "He died in his sleep".
Inappropriate pregnancy = "gastroenteritis" (four months worth)
Flat-out murder = "the gun just went off"
Where is the kindness in lying, in covering up, in the use of euphemisms, in plain not acknowledging that human beings can and have been throughout history susceptible to such extremes of emotion so as to murder others or themselves? It's the story of the first brothers in Eden. (Not a paradise, that Eden - just tropical.) Narcissism combined with just enough paranoia turns these murderous urges outward, and we have everything from a motivated businessperson to Attila the Flippin' Hun. Murder and conquest are always built on coveting, envy and hurt turned outward and focused. Suicide is taking on all the load, a combination of feeling utterly powerless and one tiny gleam - that the only power remaining is when to check out. But that gleam is a lie, it is the hellmouth of suicidality itself, and if one does not retreat immediately and fight, things can go very badly very fast.
Without a rather precise balance - in all aspects of life especially neurotransmitters - folks are pretty much either down on themselves or down on others. Introvert/extrovert? Not quite, but that sort of polarity. The real demon in the mix is that, no matter if outward- or inward-oriented, somewhere along the line logic breaks down. We need other people to help us with our internal checks and balances.
There is only one War, the same War that has gone on forever. Life versus Death. Suicide is that Death right inside the mind, the personality, the life of its victim. The battles are epic, usually fought in dark bedrooms in the black hours with much tossing and turning, or hiding in a closet with a blanket wrapped tightly, or commuting to work and purely fighting for control that cannot flicker, or putting up with the in-laws inane comments, or whatever your own personal devil might be.
It can alway be fought. It can almost always be beaten.
We are not near the point in medicine or society to do better. And we are receding backwards, in society, at a terrifying rate.
Do not blame the victim. Fight the Enemy with everything!
National Suicide Prevention Line