First off, what I'm about to say isn't sexist, we all, I hope, are clear that many (not all) men and women have different sensibilities on how they are entertained, that doesn't mean they are unequal in any way.
Now that's over with, I got a massive sense of trying to ape the style and feeling of many of the recent shows my ex would love that I found incredibly boring. The show has the elements of human interest, outside romance, such as family and trust/betrayal and what I would call 'courtroom drama ethics' without the courtroom. The writing and acting, especially in the early shows, is identikit for these types of shows and the actress who plays Joy is clearly hand picked straight out of that style of TV like 90210.
So it seems to me that they wanted to incorporate that style of show to up the quota of women watching those Netflix marvel shows. If you look at it in that way then you can understand the narrative differences alot more.
Also, although like Luke Cage there there was some weak writing, there was elements of strong writing from time to time... one of which I thought was fantastic foreshadowing - the difference between Danny and Colleen's style and Danny telling her that hers was based on aggression and advising her to change directly foreshadows her being in the hand and what is to come between them, plot wise with Danny helping her realize the Hand is 'wrong.' It's a real pity that idiots called this out as racist (while being racist in their view of Colleen), because it's a fantastic wee scene that mirrors elements to come.