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[Steve Sensible]

is that what it has come to these days? a girl has less than three weeks to sleep with someone before she gets kicked to the curb? maybe i'm old fashioned, but i'd like to know someone for more than a few dates before engaging in something so intimate.

Say you've been seeing someone for three or four weeks, maybe a couple of times a week. If you honestly haven't decided if you want to sleep with them after that many dates, then what were you doing on those dates? Talking about the weather?

I'm pretty sure most people have made up their mind after the first or second date - that doesn't mean that you sleep together on the first date, but either the desire is there or it isn't. And if it is there, then why wait?

[Todd Gross]

isn't that what dating is? i don't know about overseas, but here it is entirely common to see various people in the dating phase. hence why it is called dating, not 'serious monogamous relationship in which seeing others is out of the question.'

I have always considered dating to be the trial period where each person evaluates each other to see if they want to commit to a long-term relationship with that person. The "dating period" is over when each person says, "I love you" or one person decides they do not want to go further with the other and ends it.

For Christel and I, we dated for about a month before we said "I love you". A month later, she moved in with me.

[stephanie familiar]

I have always considered dating to be the trial period where each person evaluates each other to see if they want to commit to a long-term relationship with that person. The "dating period" is over when each person says, "I love you" or one person decides they do not want to go further with the other and ends it.

i don't think you have to say "i love you" for the dating period to be over. i think the dating period is over when two people agree to begin a serious, monogamous relationship, as has been the case for many people i know.

[Russell H]

I've only ever been in serious monogamous relationships or casual one-nighters. Nothing inbetween.

[Christian U]

Weird, wonder where that came from. I'm 99% sure that since the age of 17 I haven't kissed a single woman that I haven't slept with also. Getting to first base isn't always easy but I've never encounted any problems with getting from first base to home plate very quickly.

Well, this was in the 1940s, of course. Things may have changed a bit.

isn't that what dating is? i don't know about overseas, but here it is entirely common to see various people in the dating phase. hence why it is called dating, not 'serious monogamous relationship in which seeing others is out of the question.'

Yeah, that's what I was talking about. We don't really do that thing here. I find it a bit strange, too. If you've been dating someone for weeks, surely you're either in love by that point or there's no point to keeping it going?

[Patrick A]

I dunno, my money'd be on it still working for Patrick in the UK.

Now, THERE'S a reality TV series ... we could call it Getting Ayers Rocks Off.

I am already designing the logo. The problem will be in season three when they change the name to You Do Uluru.

[al-x]

Hello:

Anyone ever had a big fight, argument, or a big breakup?

I had a girl one time try to sucker me into buying her
everything and it just didn't work out.


Al...

[brucegray666]

In the 8 years Jill and I have been together we've never had any big bust ups. We've had a couple disagreements about stuff but we work it out rather than having massive screaming matches. I genuinely could not be arsed with any of that shit - if I was in a situation were arguments were a regular occurrence I'd have serious doubts over the long term survival of the relationship.

[Christian U]

Anyone ever had a big fight, argument, or a big breakup?

Only in the sense that every breakup is a big breakup. But no murder threats, thrown cutlery or anything.

[craggy]

fights, breakups, and stuff...hmm? I suppose. It's all relative, y'know? Like Christian says, every breakup is a big breakup. Unless, I suppose you're some kind of superfly superpimp who is just dating half a dozen people that you don't want to sleep with all at once.

[Steve Sensible]

Unless, I suppose you're some kind of superfly superpimp who is just dating half a dozen people that you don't want to sleep with all at once.

If you don't want to sleep with them you're not "dating" - you're just hanging out with friends.


I've been in a relationship where we argued a lot. And it's easy to ask "why don't you just break up" - the simple answer is because you're in love. And love makes people do a lot of stupid things.

[Chris D]

So I went to a party last night and met this stunningly gorgeous girl. We spent most of the party chatting it up and it was quite nice. Until at the very end when her boyfriend showed up. It wasn't surprising (of course a girl that good looking wouldn't be single), but still disappointing.

[craggy]

If you don't want to sleep with them you're not "dating" - you're just hanging out with friends.

not necessarily. I might just be getting free meals and giving others the impression that I'm popular.

[Stephen G]

Hello:

Anyone ever had a big fight, argument, or a big breakup?

I had a girl one time try to sucker me into buying her
everything and it just didn't work out.


Al...

Had many-a girlfriends, and a few messy breaks ups - but only ONE big one, before I met Anne. I thought she was the one. I was wrong. Long story short...ended up in rehab. Not fun.

I'm obviously doing much better now .

[David Meadows]

Hello:

Anyone ever had a big fight, argument, or a big breakup?

No.

I've been shouted at a few times but I never shout back so I don't think it counts as an argument.

[craggy]

No.

I've been shouted at a few times but I never shout back so I don't think it counts as an argument.

sure it does. an argument you lost!

[Youri Zoutman]

Yes. My one relationship ended the night before my birthday, over the phone, saying she fell in love with someone else. THERE BEGINS MY DISTRUSTS OF GETTING OLDER. Just kidding. I always distrusted getting older.

[Rory Abel]

Not a big break up but kind of a funny one. Asked a girl out on a date, she said yes and we planned to get together the following weekend. Spoke on the phone a couple times during the week but that was it. Then that thursday she called me up and explained that she was breaking up with me so she could get back with her ex. At which point I had to explained to her that she wasn't breaking up with me because we hadn't even started dating yet, she was just canceling off a date.

[garjones]

I got dumped when I was 20 because I had the wrong star sign. The girl was super keen (she asked me out) and then turned to ice when I said I was an Aries and never returned my calls.

[Steve Sensible]

What?? Us Arians are quality people!

Stupid astrologists.