sorry if I'm about to get very defensive here, but: Yes, I groom (myself, right?) Do I dress right? - I wear clothes...what do you mean by "dress right"? I try really hard to not act in any wrong ways. Where are these "right places" and is it really so simple as saying a particular string of "right things"? What are these right things to say? I'd say that I know who I am as much as anyone, but as to what women are looking for, I'll be quite honest, it certainly seems I don't.
I think what he means is:
Do you shave every day, wash your hair every day (or at least every other day), are your fingernails cleaned and trimmed?
Do you wear pop culture t-shirts and baggy clothes all the time? Are your clothes clean, unwrinkled and not form fitting but at least the proper size for you?
The right places are any place that people go: the grocery store, the pub, church, concerts, clubs, parks, coffee shops, etc.
The right thing to open up with is "Hello." Don't ask her if she's ladylike and enjoys Yale. If you're nervous in talking to women, pick one out and ask her any question you would a guy you weren't trying to pick up. Get the answer, tell her thanks, smile, and you can walk away. Or if she seems open to conversation then let it flow. Don't concentrate on trying to get her number, concentrate on what she's saying and respond in kind.
Continue until you don't have any hesitation to talk to girls. Approach and speak with confidence, a clear voice and look her in the eyes. Just like you would a guy.
Please keep in mind I'm not trying to be condescending and I don't think Jim is either.