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[Chris D]

it's probably normal for people to have serious doubts about whether they would make a good parent. i wouldn't rule out the idea of fatherhood just yet, unless of course you actually know you'd be terrible at it, like you're a pedophile or something. but perhaps the first part of your post is related to the second? putting yourself down will get in the way of a great many things in life.

To be honest, I pretty much only put myself down on the internet. Around friends and family I'm usually talking about how awesome I am and how they should strive to be more like me. Especially with my family. I say I'd be a terrible parent simply because I don't have any want for kids, and I really dislike even taking care of myself. I do it because I have to, but I resent myself for it all the time. I don't want to end up resenting kids too. People usually tell me they think I'd make a good dad. But that's only because I'm good with kids. What am I supposed to do, be a dick to a little baby? Also, I only have to spend a tiny bit of time with these kids. If I had them all day I'd become an alcoholic. And I don't even like alcohol.

Also, people fail to realize I need a girl to make a baby with. And I'm too busy with work and being incredibly lazy to go out and meet a girl I might think is worth having kids with.

[stephanie familiar]

To be honest, I pretty much only put myself down on the internet. Around friends and family I'm usually talking about how awesome I am and how they should strive to be more like me. Especially with my family. I say I'd be a terrible parent simply because I don't have any want for kids, and I really dislike even taking care of myself. I do it because I have to, but I resent myself for it all the time. I don't want to end up resenting kids too. People usually tell me they think I'd make a good dad. But that's only because I'm good with kids. What am I supposed to do, be a dick to a little baby? Also, I only have to spend a tiny bit of time with these kids. If I had them all day I'd become an alcoholic. And I don't even like alcohol.

Also, people fail to realize I need a girl to make a baby with. And I'm too busy with work and being incredibly lazy to go out and meet a girl I might think is worth having kids with.

i don't know if you intended this post to be humourous, but i laughed really hard.

[Chris D]

I like making people laugh, so you basically just made my day.

[Russell H]

That's pretty much me, except I have a wife (who wants kids even less than I do) and I love booze.

[Chris D]

That's pretty much me, except I have a wife (who wants kids even less than I do) and I love booze.

Your life sounds amazing and I'm now supremely jealous.

[stephanie familiar]

Your life sounds amazing and I'm now supremely jealous.

it can't be that amazing. he has to stick pills up his bum.

[craggy]

but so do rockstars!

[njerry]

Speaking for the other side, nothing has brought me greater satisfaction in my life than my two children, now aged 24 and 22. They each gave me a Father's Day card this year that brought a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye. I love my wife, I'm pleased with my career, but my greatest sources of pride and joy are Erin and Dan.

[Russell H]

it can't be that amazing. he has to stick pills up his bum.

Not any more.

[David Meadows]

People usually tell me they think I'd make a good dad. But that's only because I'm good with kids. What am I supposed to do, be a dick to a little baby? Also, I only have to spend a tiny bit of time with these kids. If I had them all day I'd become an alcoholic. And I don't even like alcohol.

I get that too. When people tell me I'm good with my nieces and nephew, I point out that it's only because I know I can walk away from them at the end of the day. The idea of having kids without an "off switch" fills me with horror.

[Russell H]

Other people's kids - the best kind.

[garjones]

Bunch of jaffas the lot of you.

[Jim Ohara]

I get that too. When people tell me I'm good with my nieces and nephew, I point out that it's only because I know I can walk away from them at the end of the day. The idea of having kids without an "off switch" fills me with horror.

Do you have a pet?

[David Meadows]

Jaffa: bad with kids

Do you have a pet?

No. A cat shares the house with me.

[Chris Fenton]

I am sitting here reading this with my son asleep in my arms, today is quite possibly one of the first times that we have spent time together which hasn't resulted in him screaming. I worried that I would be a terrible dad but I don't think I'm doing too badly, well apart from the screaming.
What I find and other parents here may agree is that, even though Logan is only 9 weeks old, i can't imagine life without him.

[garjones]

I am sitting here reading this with my son asleep in my arms, today is quite possibly one of the first times that we have spent time together which hasn't resulted in him screaming. I worried that I would be a terrible dad but I don't think I'm doing too badly, well apart from the screaming.
What I find and other parents here may agree is that, even though Logan is only 9 weeks old, i can't imagine life without him.

You'll be doing fine Chris. Your last sentence makes sure of that.

I'm a father of two and what the second one reveals to you is that parenting is important but even if you do exactly the same thing you don't get the same result. She was very fussy who carried her after 6 months, he isn't. She is fussy wth food, he eats anything. She's very confident and insists she must do things herself, he may not.

If the kid cries a lot or sleeps badly it isn't necessarlily down to you.

[al-x]

Hello:

Say, you guys ever woke up in the middle of the
night for 4am feedings and so on?


Al...

[Arjan Dirkse]

I usually only get up for feeding when it's time for breakfast.

Congrats to all the fathers in this thread, I'm sure you're all great dads. Must be the toughest job imaginable. Well, except for mom.

[Will Carper]

Can't see why they would have...

[Chris Fenton]

Every night since he was born Al, I change the nappy and then my wife feeds him.