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#2621399 Henry

Posted by stephanie familiar on 12 January 2014 - 04:48 AM

After a very long battle with brain cancer, Henry passed away on January 8th, and was laid to rest this morning. He was 41. 


Online, he was a very private and guarded person. You may have known him as Quilty, Marion Quiltowski, or as that mod with the whomping stick. He reached out to me a few years ago, and got to know him quite well. We wrote the kind of emails that took days to write (we’d end every email with “see you in two weeks!” because that’s how long it would take to compose one) and would have spanned ten pages had we written them on paper. He loved classical music (he tried to get me to love The Firebird as much as he did), Central Park, dreamed of seeing Vatican City one day, and his favourite season was Autumn. 


I asked him once what his imaginary life would be. He said he’d have a little boy who’d share his love of comics, a daughter who was a dancer, and he’d teach history (high school or college, he couldn’t decide). He couldn’t picture a wife (Thora Birch maybe?) but they’d live in New York in one of those converted apartments that used to be a therapist’s office, and it would always be Fall. 


Reading back through some of his emails, he was so eloquent and smart. You can tell that a lot of thought went into every sentence that he wrote. He talked about you guys, the guys who left MW for greener pastures, and that he even had Tegler ban his IP address once because coming here so often was affecting his work productivity. smile.png


I don’t believe in Heaven, but Henry did. For his sake, I hope there is one and that he’s there right now, finally without pain, without worry, and looking down on the people he loved. I’m going to miss hearing his New Yawk accent on the other end of the line, telling me everything's gonna be okay, calling me ‘kiddo.’


His obituary may be found here. Please take a minute to leave a few words in the guest book for his family. Send me a PM or Facebook me for an address if you wish to send a card. Thank you for the support you've given him and his family in the past. It meant something to them. 



Rest in peace, Henry. 






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#2675158 MW on hygiene and grooming...

Posted by Arjan Dirkse on 19 July 2014 - 12:56 AM




Yeah, I'm sure it was meant in jest but I agree with Arjan (without condoning his choice of words). That was a bit tactless, Jim.

I can't understand how you can't take even a little pride in your appearance. If you don't respect yourself how do you expect others to respect you?

Arjan I don't know much about your personal situation, but if you think it's acceptable to go through life being dirty I fundamentally disagree. MW may be a safe place, but it doesn't entitle you to not hear opinions from others. Living in a bubble doesn't help anyone. I don't expect you to apologize but it's sad you can can get so angry about a fundamental expectation of decent human behavior.
I'm pretty confident these days that people don't take offense at my lovely aroma, just to get that out of the way. As I said, I shower pretty much everyday, the days I don't shower it's because I overslept or something and I'm in a hurry to go out. But at least in this climate I think most people could get by with just washing a few vital parts daily to get rid of any sweaty odours, and showering maybe 2-3 times a week.
I have pretty severe OCPD combined with a social phobia, which used to mean - in my case - that it's difficult, most of the times impossible for me to face any person I don't know, especially anyone of the female gender, for fearing rejection - there was just a continuous tape going on in my head telling me "you're worthless, you're stupid, you're ugly, you stink, nobody likes you, you'd be better off dead".  It took years of therapeutic sessions and feedback of people - friends and two lovers - to assure me I didn't stink, and I was a person who was worth existing. It's something that doesn't really go away, but it's somewhat easier for me now to interact with people.
So your post just said "you stink and that's why girls don't like you." To suggest that odours are the reason someone doesn't have a life partner even without knowing - or smelling - that person, is incredibly offensive. Internet doesn't have an olfactory interface yet, so we can't have a " smell off"  here to compare personal fragrances, which means that it's just fucking stupid and insensitive of you to make such claims. I am not very angry or anything, but your attitude just betrays that you can occasionally be a bit of a smug, self centered bully.

It wasn't even directed at you Arjan. I don't know anything about your social life. To be honest I didn't read any if your posts. I was mainly focused on Oguls pride that he doesn't wash his hands after wiping his ass and I love giving Jacow a hard time because he's easy to rile up.

Sounds like you've been dealt a shitty hand dude. I wish you the best of luck with it.




"Shitty hand"  might be a poor choice of words. biggrin.png

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#2634929 The MW Health Thread...

Posted by Ulf on 07 March 2014 - 03:18 PM

Hooray, I have my wife back home! The downside: the cancer was further advanced than hoped and we're looking at six months of chemo. But this too will pass. She's home and she's intent on beating this thing once and for all, that's all that matters.


Really makes you appreciate the little things in life.  

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Posted by Nicholas Taggart on 05 September 2014 - 04:18 PM

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#2673846 I look at picture. I am happy!

Posted by garjones on 16 July 2014 - 03:53 AM


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#2623535 Family Millarworld

Posted by James Dodsworth on 19 January 2014 - 11:25 PM

So, after a delightful afternoon/evening out with Mike and Sanjay, and Gibsonian popping by as well, my thoughts turn to what this board has meant to people over the years. A lot of people have passed through here to one extent or the other through its various incarnations.


We all interact in some small way through this board and I know a lot of you think it has been a bit of an inner circle at times, but it is what you make of it, we're all very accommodating here. I have found some of my closest friends due to the various forms of the board.


I would like to say that my wife and I are expecting our second baby in July this year, adding to the growing number of babies born since this board existed. Nevermind the large number of us who have married or found partners along the way.


So, what do you like about Millarworld? Let's be positive, tell tales of good things that have happened because you are (or were) here. Even if it's just what you've observed happening on the board - how did it make you feel?


I have many stories that I'm sure my friends will crossover with, but I want everyone to feel as though they can say something positive about interacting or just lurking here.


I promise Al-X* will not log any of it.



*cybernet bows to no mortal!

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#2621542 Henry

Posted by Mikha'il Tegler on 12 January 2014 - 06:37 PM

Mike was kind to write to me today about the very sad news about our man, Henry Blanco. As I recall him, he was a very jovial and kind person. A devout Catholic and librarian, who's favorite movie was Lawrence of Arabia. Of course, Henry was so much more then these few words even to me, a distant acquaintance.
I hope, in regards to his faith, he is somewhere better now, and that his family can take a lot of comfort in that. 
I have thought of him often since the news of his cancer came to us. Thank you again, Stephanie. 
This particularly touches home, because I recently lost a friend who had cancer and had been struggling with it the last two years. His loss too is keenly felt.
To respect and celebrate, Henry's life with me on this forum, chat, and e-mail, I will donate to CANCER.ORG and watch Henry's favorite movie. 
For Millarworld: remember Henry as your President. You might as well know now I rigged that election. You couldn't have gotten a better man for the job if I let democracy get in the way.


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Posted by Mike on 19 September 2014 - 11:29 AM

'The old and the shitebags voted no'

Not acceptable. Your 'shitebags' are predominantly decent Scots and residents of Scotland, most of whom voted with their conscience and own considered opinion for what they thought was right for them, their family and their country. Many of my friends and family voted 'No' and I know lots of them seriously wrestled with their decision. Not a single one of them deserves to be called 'shitebag' for that, by you or anyone; it won't be tolerated here.
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#2688305 I love this Forum...

Posted by Mike on 04 September 2014 - 09:10 PM

Three years ago today I moved to London. 90 minutes after I arrived in the city, I'd moved my stuff into my new flat and was sat in a pub with a crowd of brilliant people I am very grateful and proud to call my friends, who I met because of this place.

I bloody love it here.

And Matt, the last time you tried to share the love, I ended up with a mild concussion.
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Posted by Jim Ohara on 15 August 2014 - 09:21 PM


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#2676619 A Picture is Worth a Thousand Comments

Posted by Chris Fenton on 23 July 2014 - 09:53 PM

Not a funny image but something I really wanted to share.


The greying gentlemen with a hole in his hair cut is my Dad, walking out with the England team at the commonwealth games opening ceremony.
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